How To Get Yourself and Your Life Together: No BS Edition

With a new month that just approached us this week, there is no better time than now to figure out how you’re either going to let this month be great and achieve everything you need, or have it be another set of weeks where you’re not productive as much and stay in the same spot as you were before. February was a super strange month for me and I talked about it in my previous blog from last week right here: Anxiety and Stress: How To Manage and Live Your Best Life. I definitely had a rough month with so much work I was doing and I felt so overwhelmed at times. Life can be very overwhelming at times and it doesn’t mean you should let it get the best of you.

In this post, you’re going to find 5 tips to get your life together, become the best version of yourself, setting goals, and more. It all begins with you and when you put yourself in a mindset where you have your goals out ready to go, you will be unstoppable. No matter how big or how small they are, here is the unofficial, but official guide of how you can get more focused this month. No BS Edition!!

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1. Have A Set Schedule For Yourself and Your Life

This is so important no matter how old you are, whatever stage in your life that you’re in, or however many things you are doing. If I don’t have my schedule for doing anything, I feel extremely lost and out of place. I have a small planner where I set things specifically for school. I have another calendar next to my desk which is strictly for random things such as meetings with clients for my other business, when I have to put my new contacts in, etc.

I also have a set date every week for when things have to be uploaded and completed. As I mentioned in the beginning of this post, February was rough for me so I didn’t accomplish my blog goals for monthly viewers, or my posting schedule but everything that I do for my business, podcast, school, and blog has a certain day for when it has to get done.

  • For my blog: I posted every Monday and Friday at 9 am
    • I have my Instagram posts for my blog account schedule to be posted right at 9 am
    • On WordPress, I have my blog on those days scheduled to get posted as well
  • For my main instagram: I post every other day or 3-4 times a week
    • When I go out to shoot content, I make sure to do at least a week’s worth so that for the rest of the week I don’t have to go out and get things done for my instagram
    • I focus on the following week and an outfit I want to do or inspiration I want to record / shoot for
  • For my social media management business: I post Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays
    • I chose these specific days because I am able to come up with the content on the weekends, create it, and have it scheduled with captions, hashtags, and certain times to go up automatically
  • For my podcast: I uploaded on Tuesdays with my sister
    • Last month we didn’t post as frequent as we wanted to but we created a schedule where every time we record, we do 2 episodes so that the following week is covered in case we can’t film and get busy
    • We have all of our episodes and notes done before hand so while we are filming we can refer to them and not lose our train of thoughts or lose focus
  • For school: I get school work done on weekends and Mondays
    • This semester, I specially chose to have Mondays off so that I can use it as a day to refocus, figure out what I’m doing for the week, and get work from the weekend done on this day that I couldn’t finish
    • I can also finish up extra work from my personal hobbies and business that I didn’t get to finish and then relax at night

When you have a set schedule for everything in life, you feel so much more in control and the entire week is broken down into small parts so that you can see it as a bunch of small tasks and not a huge list of things you have to get done to make you feel overwhelmed.

2. Learn To Spend Time Alone

I used to struggle with this but over the time where we had to spend months in quarantine and not see anyone, I learned to spend time with myself and actually enjoy it. I used to hate doing this because I love being out and about, or talking to someone but I actually enjoy now being alone or spending time with myself much more than being with people at times. It may sound strange to some but those who like being alone definitely know what I’m talking about.

How do you learn to spend time alone though and not have it be boring? That’s the beauty of it! You have to see what you like to do and you can even give yourself time to work on something you never really had much time to do before. In my free time over the quarantine, I started a fashion blog which is the one you’re reading right now, I learned to become much more confident in myself and starting posting every other day on Instagram, and I just recently started a social media management business. I put my mind to tasks and activities that may sound impossible, but once I get it done and figure out a plan, I am so happy with the end result. Things only sound impossible until they’re done and you have a way to get them done.

If you find yourself always having to talk to someone, needing to be in the presence of another person, or are bored, there is so much to do out there and you can’t rely on people in life all the time to do things with or for you. I learned this at a young age from my dad because he would always tell me that even though we have family and friends around us, at the end of the day, you have yourself and you have to make yourself get to where you want to be. Your friends, your siblings, or your parents aren’t going to land you that job interview, that salary every month to pay your bills, or any other worry you have.

Here are some things you can do while being alone and not be bored:

  • read a book, listen to an audiobook, or write on a blog
  • find a podcast to listen to or start one
  • invest in another hobby that can make you income every month
  • learn another language because there are so many benefits to this
  • make YouTube videos or start a channel
  • journal, meditate, and exercise

3. Set Weekly, Monthly, and Yearly Goals

If I don’t set goals for myself or constantly envision a life that I want for myself, then I seriously won’t get any work done. When I am having a procrastination moment where I don’t want to work, but I already had my relaxing day off to just chill, I just scroll through Pinterest, find a Youtube video or podcast that is motivating, or look at my goals that I really really want to achieve. This will get you right back into where you need to be and have you working hard, but smart.

Always have these goals present and in front of you too because when you are constantly seeing them, it reminds you that you are one step closer everyday to achieving them. If you have trouble finding what you want to do or accomplish, I would use Pinterest or go on social media and see someone who inspires you to work to where they are. This doesn’t mean compare yourself and your life because isn’t healthy and can lead to a toxic mindset, but instead look at these people and use it as a way to say “I want to achieve what they have. How can I do it in my own way?” and you will guarantee find a way for how you can do it. Even if it takes several years, or maybe even a couple months, remind yourself that the end result is always worth it.

I set yearly goals for what I want and have to do before a certain time and not only does it get me excited, but then I start to think of that feeling when I will finally be able to hold in my hand the thing that I’ve always wanted, or be in the space that I have always wanted. Using meditation as a way to focus and find the specific things you want to accomplish as well can help you ground yourself.

  • Start off with weekly goals of what you want to do by Friday and then on Sunday, reset yourself to set the new goals for the week.
  • With your monthly goals, figure out what you want to achieve by end of the month whether it’s a new book you’re done reading, a financial income goal, etc.
  • With the yearly goals, decide what where you want to be in a year, and the person you will have become

4. Have A New Attitude And Don’t Wait For Others

When you don’t put yourself in a new mindset all about motivation, research, hard work, and positivity, then the chances of you getting to the person or goal you want to achieve will be much more slimmer. But why? When you switch your mindset to acting like the person you want to become, getting to it is only going to be easier. You also can’t put yourself down all the time when you go through a rough patch. This is something I still struggle with sometimes but I am definitely working on. When you always choose to look at the positive and see the things in your life that have gotten better or are only going to continue to go up, you become so much more grateful for everything all around you.

As I was beginning my blog, wanted to my instagram much more seriously, and decided I wanted to start a business on the side all why working on school too full time, it wasn’t easy by no means, but I still told myself that at the end of the day, I’m one step closer to becoming and achieving everything I want. I also stopped waiting for the right time in life and following others and just did my own thing.

Everyone believes that when you graduate, is when life starts or is when it should start, but in reality you are the one who should decide. When you wait for people around you to begin on whatever it is they want to do with their lives. you’re just simply following the crowd. If there is another path you want to take whether it’s career wise, or for your own personal and mental health, you should never wait for anyone else and create opportunities for yourself.

Below is a link to an episode all about creating opportunities and shifting your mindset to being more motivated in a podcast that I have with my sister!

5. Get Organized, Dress To Impress, and Reach Out To People

One of the most important things I learned this year is the importance of networking, establishing yourself on professional platforms, and learning how to reach out to people. I have been able to do all of this since last June and have had the opportunity to work with a brand for a paid partnership, been reached out to by companies, have created content for brands, and have received hundreds of dollars worth of free products all for my social media related content. So what’s the secret? Everything that I listed in the first sentence of this paragraph.

Two years ago, December 2019 to be exact, I was a senior in high school and I went for an interview in New York for an internship in a showroom. I was so excited because I had applied for it online and they wanted me to come in for an interview. Unfortunately, I didn’t get the internship because since I was still in high school, my hours didn’t work with the hours of the internship. But instead of being upset about this, I went online and started looking for remote internships so I could do them online and a few weeks later I found my first one online. Then, the pandemic hit a couple months later and I continued doing my remote internships so I could build up my resume, learn more skills, and connect with people.

So the point of that story was to show that even though I was given the opportunity to go in person for this interview and I wasn’t able to get it because of my school hours, I didn’t immediately get upset because I knew that there were different and other opportunities that I would be able to get. I also didn’t follow and wait around until my graduation or until I became a freshman in college to start my internship experience.

You also should dress to impress and reach out to people. If you want to be a certain person, then you should act and dress the part. Don’t be in sweatpants almost every single day that you have work to do and try to put some more effort into what you’re wearing. As much as I love sweatpants, I also don’t like wearing them almost everyday so I try to incorporate some variety and style into my outfits even if they’re at home.

Reaching out to people within your niche or industry that you’re in is also extremely important because you are starting to set yourself up and connect with people that you never know who may want to work with you again in the future and maybe have a paid partnership. I love content creation, fashion, beauty, and lifestyle so I always reach out every week to different brands, companies, and influencers and see who will get back to me in terms of working together. Without doing this you’ll never know what opportunities may lie ahead for you if you never try. Don’t follow the crowd and follow your heart. If you have goals, do everything you can to get to them and don’t let people stop you either.

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Author: Pamela Valdez

Content Writer Intern for She's SINGLE Magazine, Social Media Marketing Intern, and PR Editorial Intern for Access by NKC. Pursuing fashion industry and will be an upcoming undergraduate at FIT.